SEX and HUMAN NATURE.?

Question

I've noticed in todays world sex is always reduced to basic science.When it comes to sex its always nothing more but a primal need.There are so much excuse for why monogamy is unrealistic and why cheating is natural in are soceity.And its always jusify with HUMAN NATURE.It kind of feels like we've alomost waved off resposiblity.We fall back on the continuous crutch of HUMAN NATURE to make everything OK!When it comes to sex has that become a cheap excuse?Jusification for this lazy,instant gradification culture?I know sex is human nature,but the way we talk about it,we make it sound like its outta are control.And its not natural for us to control it!REALLY?I pesonally hate the human nature excuse! I think its weak and I think its cheap! I think as people we are here for a littel bit more. But have we used that as crutch to make everything OK when it comes to thing like sex?Are we giving up conciousness? I APOLOGIZE IF THIS A CONFUSING QUESTION. I DIDN'T GET MY POINT OUT PROPERLY,I KNOW

Answer 1

I think it has a lot to do with self control, and the way our society has evolved. We are much more a science based society now rather than a full blown religious society. In my opinion we lose a lot of our values and morals when this happens. Also when the opprotunity presents its self people dont have the self control to say stop (expecially for men) and really think about what they are doing. I do think it is a very weak excuse to say something like "oh, I'm sorry but it was just my primal instincts I wasnt thinking" because we as humans have the power to stop and think and contemplate our actions. We are able to see the possible results of things before they happen. This is why we dont have liver and onion flavored ice cream. We dont need to try it we know its gonna taste like shi.t. And to use this primal instinct nonsense as an excuse for cheating, or anything else you can think of is really an insult to our very being.



So I dont really have an answer to your question other then times are changing and our actions are evolving with them. Whether it be for better or worse who is really to say?

Answer 2

I found your question in Family and Relationships and went to your profile and found this one, as instructed. I think the reason you didn't get coherent answers is because you didn't phrase your question too clearly. What, exactly, IS the question? I think I know what you are asking, and so I will offer my two cents.



Sex, in a Darwinian sense, is a drive compelling behaviors that perpetuate the species. And, yes, people use this as an excuse to justify animal/cheating behaviors. But it is only the unintelligent that do this. The thinking man and woman do not use the fact that "sex is a drive that cannot be denied" to justify amoral behavior.



The dichotomy is in what social mores accept as "good" behavior, and this compelling urge to have sex that all of us share. Society wants monogamy and stable relationships so there is social stability and fewer anger/emotion driven murders and social upset, but the human animal enjoys lust. And I am afraid that it will ever be so.



So there you have it, if my perception of what you are asking is correct. The stupid people have indiscriminate sex. The intelligent/educated do not. Or at least they are not supposed to.



What are you gonna do? We all like sex, right?

Answer 3

Ah, the classic "omitting relevant information from a hypothetical". In the next question, the person will be the last man left on Earth, and his seed is needed to repopulate. I wouldn't want to date someone who had sex with a new person every weekend. That's their perogative, but I would rather be with someone with whom I could have long term emotional attachment to. The world does not move to the beat of just one drum, what might be right for you may not be right for some. If someone has made a commitment to another, to be monogamous, then breaking that commitment wrongs the other person. It doesn't make sex unnatural. You're not sorry, you think you've been clever.

Answer 4

I understand this is a complex question. I have a story for you. There was a frog. scorpion and a stream. The frog and scorpion were on one side of the stream together. The scorpion wanted to get across the river. He approaches the frog and asks "can you swim me across the stream?". The frog replies "why should I trust you; you may very well sting me". The scorpion replies "I promise i will not sting you, I really need to cross this stream". So the frog obliged and the scorpion climbed on the frog's back and they began to cross the river. Midway, the frog felt a sting upon his back. The scorpion had stung the frog. The frog croaked "You fool, now we both will die, why did you do that". The scorpion replied "because it is in my nature".



Just as in humans; we verbalize or acknowledge in our own minds the possibility of something such as sex and knowing the realities of it, do it becuase consciously we feel it is the right thing to do and sometimes it is a want and sometimes it is a need. Nature is it's own animal and has evolved just as much as humans have. Its not that we are giving up consciousness because when having sex, you are at your most conscious. I hoped this helped, I know it was somewhat confusing as well.

Answer 5

Sex has become human nature and frankly it is kinda gross to think about. Well yes sex is enjoyable I wont deny that. Im all for it as much as the next person. But its gross in the fact that these days you go on a date with a guy and they (alot of them... I know there are the few out there who don't) expect sex; wether they say so or not. It has become a cheap excuse/need alot of ppl just think that b/c they are horny they should get laid and the first person they prey upon should fill that need for them. I totally agree with you on that point.

Answer 6

You are absolutely right. sex is not that big of a deal and human nature is a lame excuse. sex is simply away to keep our blood lines alive but that's not why we're here. and we all can control it, most just don't want to. our purpose is not the have sex, we are supposed to have meaningful, nurturing, and loving relationships so we can share our accomplishments with our life partners. sex is just a detail, not the whole world. of course society sees it differently but who cares. march to the beat of your own drum. then most walk out when sex has a consequence, more specifically a baby. with great power comes great responsibility, we have the ability to create a new life that's big! we need to respect that and be a lot more responsible when it comes to it. i hope this is an intelligent enough answer for you :)

Answer 7

There is something of an animal in every person. But we have complicated senses and ideas which are mixed with our animal part. So you'll never want to have sex with the most beautiful girl if you know she is utmost silly. The more developed your spiritual and intellectual (and moral) part is, the less you are controlled with your animal part. And the precise proportion of that mixture is a real nature of an individual. If one excuses his doings with "human nature", it means, his nature is not developed enough to have a heavier part of more high likes and dislikes... And sometimes your better part straggles with your mean one.

And sex is not enjoyalbe without love.

Answer 8

I do believe sexual urges are primal and natural, but we are not chimps. We have a conscious that understands morality and mortality. I don't think chimps waste too much time on this much less even understand these concepts. We were created different and thus have contrrol over our "primal" urges. I can't just kill someone who angers me, animals can and do. We need to understand this difference between us and the rest of the natural world. We have been set apart. Our society is attemting to destroy this concept by telling us we can't avoid it so "just do it."

Answer 9

They did the best they could to answer your question. Sex is a part of life, and is nature to some relationships. It is a form of science.

Answer 10

sex is a primal urge.. It wears off as you get older.

sometimes sex overrides your thinking mind, especially if mixed with alcohol. Have sex, use caution, wear condoms.

MIKE

Answer 11

This is really a question for Mike. When will it wear off? I'm 65 and it hasn't worn off yet. You've got me worried.